Your sultry, serene presence makes you appear other-worldly.
Betty Draper, Mad Men
Cora Smith, The Postman Always Rings Twice
Your sultry, serene presences mesmerizes, while your emotional poise keeps your admirers at arms length. Your extreme emotional equanimity and calm presence makes you appear above the quotidian and banal. You appear other-worldly, like a mythic goddess come to life. Some may even find you aloof.
In reality, you are one of the rare women with a deeply internal focus. A natural introvert, you appreciate solitude and activities that allow you to go inward, like meditation and yoga. As a dominant lover, you do enjoy attention and connection, which you garner with your striking appearance, but there is a distinct subdued aspect to your personality.
Your secondary archetype is the mystic, which means that inner peace and spirituality, or at least feeling connected to something greater, are priorities for you. Your home is your sanctuary and your regard your personal space as sacred.
Just as people are drawn to a fire’s warmth, admirers find your soulful, sensual presence and grounded energy comforting. Your distance is equally enchanting. You are like a star, sparkling from a light years away. Few can get close enough to see your more human qualities.
You appeal to a man’s instinct to dream. The combination of warm siren energy, and cool mystic energy creates an emotional vacuum that consumes people, making them want more of you.
Consider R&B crooner Sade, whose subdued, sultry sound has been described as “the voice of comfort to the wounded heart”. The enigmatic songstress often performs her gentle sounding music in bare feet, her costumes, simple, her lush hair, away from her face—and even though she releases roughly one album per decade, she maintains legions of loyal fans. In her absence, her presence looms larger. This is the power of the goddess.
You can become so internally focused that you are cut off from your sensuality, spontaneity and ability to connect. You may be the woman who can attract curious eyes, but can’t emotionally seal the deal. Essentially, until you learn how to nurture and unite both your lover and mystic energy, both archetypes will oppose each other. Your desire to connect may be compromised by your introverted nature, and the ease at which you can become a homebody. While you are a dominant lover, you may need to learn to fully embrace your creative, erotic energy, as your primary and secondary archetypes can be at odd.
The founder of Women Love Power®, Ayesha K. Faines is a writer, media personality, and brave new voice for feminine power and social change. Sought after for her provocative insights on culture, mythology and gender politics, she has been featured on MTV, Essence, Entertainment Tonight, The Michael Baisden Radio Show, AfroPunk, and Time among other media outlets. She’s traveled the world lecturing before a number of universities, and she pens a column for Zora Magazine that explores the intersection of love and power. She is best known as a featured panelist on “The Grapevine”. Ayesha is a graduate of Yale University and a former television journalist.